Thursday, July 06, 2006
Esto se está poniendo bueno ...
Iam responding to the comments that anonymous said regarding making love for long periods of time and witholding ejaculation.
First of all I have to say that in my opinion, anonymous is not considering anyone but himself. As a biologist and woman I can say that physically there are limits to how much stimulation can be handled before there is abrassion and hurt. The mind wonders away and the vaginal fluids dry up in a woman after a time. Then it is no longer a matter of pleasure for her, but discomfort! Perhaps the man is thinking only of himself and not his partner though.
I find it very interesting, and also a bit egocentric, that he considers his semen a divine gift of the gods. I feel that the woman's body and her ovum within are just as important and divine. Perhaps the woman should then also be very concerned about all the men like him. She might not want his semen to contaminate her body or impregnate her ovum if he is not important in her life! It is rather obvious that a man has thousands of sperm in his semen and a woman only one ovum a month to impregnate! Talk about relative importance.
I also want to mention the idea of long and passionate versus a quickie. Frankly I am not fond of quickies and do prefer long and passionate within the limits of comfort for the people involved. It seems that anonymous is too involved in his own passion and his own need and not in the other partner. It really is most wonderful when the people practice the act in a most natural way of letting the feelings ebb and flow naturally and not play mind games of control. Then passion is shared and the gift is given when the two people jointly reach a climax without manipulation on anyone's part. Making love has to be about being generous to the other. It is an act of giving and receiving pleasure equally. If this is not the intent, it is just about personal gratification. Anonymous seems to imply that he just cares to go on and on regardless of the other person's level of engagement or interest in continuing the activity. So I ask...who is he making love to or with....his mind